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Why did I choose to have a natural childbirth experience?

I imagine it’s the same reason one might choose to run a marathon or surf a big wave.

It’s not just so I could say I did it, though that feels good to do so.

It’s not because I had to, certainly no one was pressuring me to go natural.

It’s not even because I wanted to be the ‘natural’ type.

I chose natural childbirth because that run or that wave is never going to exist for me any other time. I had one opportunity to ride it all the way to the top and see what it was like. To feel the pains and rushes of the climb, the sweat on my brow, knowing that I am doing hard work and my body is capable of completing the challenge.

Was it easy?

No, not for me. I have heard stories of easy births, but even my ‘easiest’ birth was a huge challenge. My longest birth was like running a marathon, my shortest birth was also like running a marathon. The body feels the whole experience and when it comes to a close, your body rejoices in the rest. Perhaps that is why I am so attracted to distance running now, when I have never run before in my life. Each run is similar to a birth in some small way. Meeting each hill large and small with as much energy as I can muster. Using breathing, stretching, music, support people and music… I use all of these in both my births and my running. Then the feeling of finishing, not necessarily just a race but any long run, I feel that sense of completion. It’s only a tiny fraction of what I felt after each of my births, but it’s there.

Honoring My Journey: “Recovering” From Pregnancy and Nursing

I have been grumpy for the last six years of my life.  After my first son was born, I recovered quickly.  By recover, I mean regaining the

same state of health I had before my pregnancy.   After my daughter was

born less than two years later, I didn’t recover quite as quickly.  I found myself more stressed and worn out and short-tempered.  Afterr my third child was born, I became permanently grumpy (well almost.)

I told myself that once the children started sleeping through the night

(which took years each), I’d feel better.  But I didn’t.   I told myself

that I just needed some time to myself.  Or I needed more time connecting with the children. Or I needed to develop more outside interests.  Or I needed to spend more time at home  ….

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How to Give a Blessingway Celebration

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What is a blessingway? 

There is no single answer to that question because each one is as unique as the mama and baby herself! Blessingways are better than a traditional baby shower because they speak to the heart and soul of what the mother is experiencing during her journey on her path of parenthood be this a first baby or her fifth.

 Why should I consider throwing a blessingway for a pregnant mom?  

The amount of positive energy that comes from being surrounded by friends and/or family during a blessingway is absolutely priceless to the pregnant mother- do not underestimate how much a mama will benefit from this even if it is her 2nd, 3rd or more pregnancy.
There are several websites that go deeply into the history behind a blessingway ceremony, and if you are interested in exploring these please do.  In this article though I’m going to get right to the meat of HOW to throw a blessingway in a simple, stress free format that has proven to work for me as both a giver and receiver of the blessingway gift.


Here is my simple blessingway recipe, a list of pieces that have worked well for honoring the journey of motherhood time and time again:
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The Watched Pot of Pregnancy

belly tight crop w shed blue.jpgI’d be willing to bet that no one feels like the proverbial watched pot as much as a full-term pregnant woman. I’m due to have my fourth baby any day now, and so the watching begins now in earnest. My friends ask politely no more than once a day how I’m feeling, my husband answers every small noise I make with a quick, knee-jerk “ya ok?”, aunts who generally wait for me to wander over to their place for a visit make sure to stop by and check in. And the strangers… they don’t even know for sure I’m due, but the look on their face says “oh, dear god please don’t pop right here in front of me!”
I have to say that my own reaction to this attention is a mixed bag. Some days I feel so grateful for every inquiry, glad to know that people around me are seeing that I am at a crossroads right now. Other days I feel like shouting out that it could still be a full four weeks before I meet this baby! I have had three previous deliveries at 16, 14 and 9 days post-term, so it’s hard to think that this baby will be any different.
In the interest of figuring out how to best handle my emotions over the next 1-30 days of being watched I opened up my childbirth books and did a bit of reading. Of course, these are books I’ve read before and things I already ‘know’ but I’m hoping to jumpstart myself into the right mindset to let this baby come out.
LET.
That was the word I found that stuck in my mind: LET.

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