I subscribe to a daily email from an amazing parenting coach, Scott Noelle (http://www.enjoyparenting.com/get-your-daily-groove).  His Daily Groove writing offers profound insights into how to be with our children in a collaborative way.  He has great insights into the Law of Attraction and other loving and empowering truths.

I wish I had his wisdom.  He is definitely a leading edge parent who understands cooperation and mutual respect in a way I just don’t.  I know when I’m doing something that’s old-fashioned and limited — I just don’t always know how to be different.  Scott has a way of seeing choices where I see only limitations, of seeing growth and potential where I only see judgment and criticism, of seeing collaboration and creativity where I only see command and control.

I wish I were wiser. 

I’m yearning for and reaching for a totally different way of seeing the world and I’ve gotten glimpses of it but can’t quite keep it in my view.  It’s like eating a delicious gourmet meal and then having to go back to eating fast food.  This new way of seeing life is calling to me, beckoning to me and frankly, I am envious when I see others “getting it” more than I do.

And yet …

We only can recognize in others what we already have in ourselves.  So what if I realize that part of me is already living collaboratively and respectfully?  That part of me is already incredibly wise and connected?  What if I realize that  I *am* shedding my views that limit me and restrict me?  What if I recognize that my children are living freely and that my yearning is a strong signal that I am on the right path?

It’s good to have the creative tension between what is now and what’s coming.  Imagine a rubber band being stretched between two points - where we are now and where we want to be.  Too much tension and the band breaks.  Too little and the rubber band is useless.  The trick is in keeping the tension just right. 

I am happy with who I am.  And, I wish I were wiser. 

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Deborah Donndelinger, EFT-ADV 
www.energeticmothers.com 

As we parent our children, we change the world

 

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I have been fascinated by body typing for a few years now.  There are several books and authors on the subject and the one I have been drawn to is the Body Typing Diet by Abravanel and King-Morrison. 

(http://bodytypes.com/)  The premise of body typing is that there are different body types (in this case, based on dominant gland) that

dramatically affect what foods and exercise are good for you.   It’s

important to know your type as the recommendations are drastically different for each type.  While I have worked with several different systems based on blood type and metabolism, this system appealed to me the most.  (That doesn’t mean I think it’s the best; it’s just the most useful for me.)

 

After taking the tests and working with the pictures, I thought I was the thyroid type that needs protein for breakfast and needs to avoid

sugar and caffeine at all costs.    However after following that diet

approach for about a year, and gaining weight and staying grumpy, I realized I needed more help and consulted with Elizabeth Morrison, one of the authors.  (If you are at all interested, I highly recommend her. 

You can reach her at ekmorris@pacbell.net <mailto:ekmorris@pacbell.net>.  Her fee is very reasonable at $75 for a 90 minute assessment.)

 

Turns out I am an adrenal type who needs a light breakfast and can tolerate a bit of sugar and caffeine.  Ironically enough, I was absolutely convinced that I wasn’t the adrenal type.  However, after looking at pictures together and talking it through, I can now see how I

am an adrenal type.   I an not sure why but discovering this has

absolutely boosted my confidence.  ***I feel a huge sense of relief like I’ve discovered what I’m getting for Christmas and I really really like

it.***

 

This process of discovering my body type has strengthened my commitment to conscious parenting and homeschooling.

 

As I look at my children and see them eat totally different foods, I am in awe that they instinctively know what their bodies need.  One child needs eggs daily, another eats very lightly for breakfast with fruit, and another flourishes on dairy.

 

As I hear all those rules about food, (sugar and caffeine are bad for you, you must eat a hearty breakfast, avoid dairy, eat dairy, avoid red meat, eat red meat) I can realize that while those rules might work for one person, it doesn’t mean they work for me or my children or

husband.   What my mother told me isn’t true!  So what works for me is

not necessarily what my children or husband need.  I can stop nagging them to eat how I think they should eat …..

 

As I hear all those rules about exercise (you must do strength training three times a week, you must exercise 60 minutes a day, you must stretch …), I realize that each person has a way of exercising that supports their body and it looks very different for each type.

 

As I realize how distorted my view of my body image was, I can ponder what caused me to discount my own inner wisdom and criticize myself so

harshly.   And as I think of my three children, I wish them a continued

sense of security and confidence in their bodies and hope they don’t lose track like I did.

 

So here’s to knowing that we are all different in what we need for food and exercise, that we have the wisdom inside ourselves, and that it’s okay to ask for help.

 

Cheers!

 

 

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Deborah Donndelinger, EFT-ADV

 

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